#Clarity in Killer Wellies
21st March 2016
Clarity in Killer Wellies?
Sometimes we forget who we are when we become a mum and being responsible for others. Focusing so much on how to be the best mother to our children and what being this ‘good mum’ really means.
I know I am a devoted mummy, committed wife, proud daughter, loving sister, loyal friend, and brave entrepreneur.
But is it even possible to be all these things at once?
I used to think so – but more recently I have realised that it is much better (for me and those around me) if I concentrate on being really present in the moment and being the one thing that is needed. For instance if I am with my kids then I will be mum and not try to be everything else -although as women I understand we have the multi tasking gene which can be hard to deny- but this has started to feel so much better for me and my life.
It means I can show up FULLY as the women I want to be in that moment.
It is totally ok to not always want to be ‘mum’ and to be something or someone else.
To remember who you were before you became a mum.
This is also one of the reasons I love to work as it gives me independence and is a reminder of who I am, but it is also important to have some time out for reflection.
Who else am I? Have I forgotten what actually lights me up? What do I love to spend hours chatting or reading about or actually out there doing?
What or who would I be if all my nearest and dearest said ‘here go and find yourself and get some clarity’. What would be the outcome. It’s an interesting one that’s for sure.
Last year I went on some training. It was about creative arts. No one else could go so I thought why the hell not. What I didn’t realise was that the training would be an absolute revelation for me.
I am usually always the first to say “somebody else better do this part I’m not very creative”. But on this training we delved into our childhood to see how creative we actually were. It turns out that once I started reliving my memories I am bloody creative and I am an outdoorsy type; piano, art, photography, drama, gymnastics, swimming, walking, writing, orienteering, den building, making fires, camping, roller skating, skateboarding, biking the list goes on and on.
Nature. Yes! That’s my thing. So why do I spend hardly anytime in it? Why have I forgotten?
I LOVE wearing my wellies.
Something calming comes over me.
A sense of freedom and that I can do bloody anything I want (my equivalent to killers heels)
In my wellies the world is truly my oyster!
They say go back to your 8 year old self to gain insight.
What is it you really love to do? What are you passionate about that maybe you have forgotten or just not had time for recently?
Isn’t it time we found out what we truly love and enjoy, so we can show our children how they can be great too!
Here’s to clarity – may it keep us sane.
FM x
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